Desire, Desperation and 3 Do’s and Don’ts for Manifesting.
When you cross the line between desire and desperation, your manifestations are delayed – Big time. We’ve got 3 simple philosophies to change things for you.
THE STRANGEST THING ABOUT MANIFESTING
Here’s a phenomenon. When you no longer need or want something, it somehow comes to you. Not when you’re in the club with your girlfriends, fake smiling and taking selfies, pretending like you’re not thirsty for someone to push up on you. That’s not the vibe we’re going for. It’s when you decide you no longer care about finding a partner, and if it happens it happens, but you’re good regardless. It’s when you’re authentic in that decision, and you’re intentional about choosing yourself, that’s when you’ll find that love or something unexpectedly good will come along for you.
have you ever noticed that when you finally get into a committed relationship with someone, doesn’t it feel like that’s when everyone you’ve ever wanted, suddenly wants you? To us, it seems like the weirdest thing.
I’ve found that in life the thing we want most desperately, we don’t get to have. The people who desperately who want children the most, struggle to get pregnant, and to them it seems like other women are walking around getting pregnant completely by accident. The people who desperately desire wealth, are constantly broke. The people who desperately want love, can’t seem to find it.
I have a friend who claims to desperately want love and a committed relationship that will eventually lead to marriage.
But she constantly goes for the men who are so clearly not ready for those things.
Some part of her believes this is what she deserves. She accepts this and therefore, doesn’t seem to manifest anything better or different.
And yet, she wants to be in love. She craves it, needs it. But it seems the thing you want most desperately, often feels the most far away. I used to wonder why that is.
As I’ve grown older, and gained a little more self-awareness,
I realized something important. When it came to the things that I’ve accomplished or the blessings that came easily for me, I can look back and say I never approached any of them like they were problems. And the things I did supremely well, I did with confidence.
For example, I usually attracted guys that were good to me. Now, of course, I met some jerks, but I never let them stick around long enough to taint my thinking or cause me to develop deep emotional insecurities.
I never allowed them to cause me to believe that something was wrong with me. I knew that I’d be loved and respected. I knew one day I’d get married.
I chose that love wouldn’t be a struggle for me.
And when I didn’t have anyone, I liked myself enough to be happy with my circumstances. Even as a teenager, a time when we feel the most desire to fit in and be accepted. Even if all my friends had partners. I never let having a lack of a boyfriend cause me to feel lonely, needy, or desperate.
My Realization
My power to have what I want came from a bone-deep knowing.
You cannot allow the world to take away your certainty that what is for you, is for you.
“Even when I don’t have anyone, a lover or partner, I like myself enough to enjoy my own company.”
Desperation repels good things. Neediness is unattractive.
That’s why it’s so hard to manifest what you want from a place of desperation. Whatever it is you want to have in your life, you must embody that energy. Neediness is the opposite.
That doesn’t mean you won’t ever struggle or have challenges. It means the way you perceive and approach those challenges must be different. You have to be willing to let go of any desperation or neediness. You have to assume that things will work out, and that the space in between is a beautiful journey. Because that space in between is your life, and you should be fully living it, not waiting on something to happen.
Now how do you do this? Especially if you desire something and it feels so out of reach. What happens when struggle sets in? How do you let go of neediness and grasping? How do you let go of desperation?
I know you’ve heard spiritual gurus tell you to detach or be unattached from the outcome.
But how do you do that? How can you have a fervent desire and be unattached to it?
And this is incredibly important. Understanding this and living this will bring you the peace and the energy you need, for all those things you imagined to actually start happening.
Here’s what you need to consider. There are very thin lines, maybe even blurred lines, between emotions. Desire can easily turn into longing, and longing can become desperation. That leads to bad thoughts, bad decisions, bad actions. It leads to us accepting people and behaviors and situations into our lives, that we shouldn’t be accepting. It leads to making decisions based on fear and worries – and decisions made based on fear never turn out for the best.
SO BACK TO THESE EMOTIONS?
What happens when your desire turns into longing?
You may not see longing for something as a bad thing. It’s not necessarily bad, except it’s counterproductive for creating your intentions.
Longing is beautiful in books and movies.
However, longing experienced is hungry and sometimes woeful. It’s not the emotion you want to be in when you’re trying to manifest something.
Before I jump into what I think you can do to get the desperation under control, here’s a note. I’ll mention this in any video about manifesting. I’m telling you how I’ve been successful.
Understand that there are no hard and fast rules.
You can be desperate for something and it still comes, it just may take longer. You can be undisciplined and shitty and still get what you want. It just may be a bit harder. You can have what you want. It’s simply that your desperation increases your struggle.
But if you want to intentionally create your life experience, and you’re struggling, here’s what you can do to change it.
SO BACK TO THESE EMOTIONS?
What happens when your desire turns into longing?
You may not see longing for something as a bad thing. It’s not necessarily bad, except it’s counterproductive for creating your intentions.
Longing is beautiful in books and movies.
However, longing experienced is hungry and sometimes woeful. It’s not the emotion you want to be in when you’re trying to manifest something.
Before I jump into what I think you can do to get the desperation under control, here’s a note. I’ll mention this in any video about manifesting. I’m telling you how I’ve been successful.
Understand that there are no hard and fast rules.
You can be desperate for something and it still comes, it just may take longer. You can be undisciplined and shitty and still get what you want. It just may be a bit harder. You can have what you want. It’s simply that your desperation increases your struggle.
But if you want to intentionally create your life experience, and you’re struggling, here’s what you can do to change it.
There are 3 Do’s and 3 Don’ts that can help you get what you want faster. Here they go.
1. Don’t fall into a space of desperation and longing. Do cultivate faith, then belief, and from belief, you’ll start knowing.
Knowing that what is for you, is for you. It’s meant to be. And you don’t have to dwell or worry over it. You’ll have an understanding. It will look or sound like this.
Money is simply a part of me. It comes easy. A mother or father is who I am. It’s meant to be. This goes for your business or career and anything important to you.
Think of ways to cultivate the belief. If that means envisioning it as you’re moving through life, then do so. If that means dressing the part, then do so. If that means unfollowing certain people because they trigger you or put you in the headspace of longing, then unfollow them. It’s okay.
My Realization
My power to have what I want came from a bone-deep knowing.
You cannot allow the world to take away your certainty that what is for you, is for you.
“Even when I don’t have anyone, a lover or partner, I like myself enough to enjoy my own company.”
2. Don’t be discouraged. Do be flexible.
Dreams can come in different ways and means. So sometimes what you want may not manifest looking the exact way you thought it would.
Your lover or partner may be of a different height or race than you imagined. The money may show up through a different channel. Your business may come through meeting the right person in an unexpected place. Your amazing career may come through relocating. Your child may come through a different process.
Your options are vast and they keep growing when you allow yourself to be flexible.
3. Don’t focus on desiring. Do focus on loving.
If it’s money that you want, remember a time when you had some money and how good it felt. It could have been when you got a tax refund or a client paid their balance unexpectedly. The way it happened is irrelevant. Your job is to relive it.
Even if you’ve never had money, the next time you go to the store, tell yourself “Soon, I’ll be able to purchase anything in here. Damn, that feels good.” Don’t focus on desiring what you don’t have. Focus on loving it. Instead of being jealous, bask in the joy of seeing others having it, knowing it means that you get to have it too. Love is a powerful emotion. The most powerful. What you love will love you too.
One more time.
1. Don’t desire it. Love it. 2. Don’t be discouraged. Be flexible. 3. Don’t be desperate. Build belief.
Embody the energy of your desires, instead of being desperate for it. And remember, there is life between you and your desired outcomes. You should be living it.
Is this helpful? I hope it was. Take care, lovely humans.
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